Dealing with a flirtacious guy friend and nonjealous boyfriend

[kandigrl]

Ive got a lot of guy friends and 98% of them all like me and a few of them are really really flirtacious. My boyfriend doesn't really care and it doesn't bug him when I hug them or lean my head on their shoulders or anything like that. My boyfriend completely trusts me yet I cant help but feel like because of those guy friends that wont respect that I have a boyfriend that they know Im planning on marrying soon my relationship is going to be hurt. What should I do?

[Shroomadelic]

Hugs are a very common thing, but leaning your head on other guy's shoulders is something else. Its a bad thing if your boyfriend isn't jealous but you shouldn't let other guys flirt like that.

[FC_Bitches]

Consider yourself lucky. I'm extremely jealous, but only let it appear that I get somewhat jealous..and my girlfriend thinks jealousy is annoying.

[jeng9296]

if he ain't that jealous, maybe he's got something ont he side. and he let's u get away with it because it his punishment.

OR maybe he'll show his true colors once u guys are hitched.

OR he completely trusts u with your male friends.

but there comes a time and place when you must realize that your behavior towards your male friends becomes threating to the relationship in general. he may see himself as on the same level playing ground as with your friends, so he doesn't really think anything of it. but when you get to the next level in the relationship, you have to stop that behavior. its threatening, looking from the outside in.

[RockerGuy]

These are such damned if you do, damned if you don't situations. It might be eating him up for all you know, but he could just be VERY good at hiding his emotions. Does he show little or not emotion in general?

It's funny, if we get jealous, we're obssesive, if we're not we don't care. I know it's all about a happy medium, jealousy is a sign that you care, but maybe he likes you so much that he doesn't wanna scare you off with jealous behavior.

[jeng9296]

my ex always wondered where my jealous streak went to, and i told her.

she told me that i need to show it to her, show her that i cared.

well it was our down fall, i was so consumed by my jealousy that it made me irritable all the time, (but then again i am working nights, i have to deal with constant hip pain, and well i wasn't getting enough sleep).

[TheLoveDoctor]

Jealousy in relationships is such a confounding thing; it's bad to have it (what, you don't trust me?) and simultaneously weird to not have it (come on! don't you like me?)...

Plain and simple, dont play this game with your boyfriend - just stop being flirtacious with your guy friends...

[jigyasa]

Keep a distance. That's all you need to do. Jus keep a distance from all the other guy friends. Flirting is OK among friends but to an extent. Just keep it in limits and it is OK.