Continuing sexual relations?

JimBeam · 11-28-2005, 04:36 AM

When my first girlfriend and I broke up, we found it quite hard to deal with and eventually ended up getting together to talk and whatnot. Unfortunately it turned into just more than having a talk... or even catching up for lunch, and on more than one occassion we ended up back in the sack. I look back at it now, and although I don't regret doing it, if I had a choice I wouldn't have done the same thing again given the chance. I do however think it helped me get over her in some way.
What do you guys think about this kind of thing? Should a break up mean completely seperating or is it OK to continue having sex, without the commitment? For some reason I would usually say it is a big no-no, but from my own experiences it really didn't cause either of us any harm. I'm just curious what others' opinion on this is...

AlphaZero · 11-28-2005, 09:12 AM

If both people are okay with it then I don't see why it is wrong. I myself wouldn't do it because I wouldn't want to get myself reattached to her when I'm trying to get over her.

lehmur · 11-28-2005, 11:55 PM

This is a really hard subject, because sex means different things to everyone. Some think it is to show love for eachother, while others just do it for fun. I don't think having sex after a relationship is good because it will just cause confusion. I know it would be hard for me to have closure if I was still having sex.

freakypunkdixie · 11-29-2005, 01:09 AM

Indeed a hard subject. You can't say whether or not it's a good thing or a bad thing. In the midst of things, you are doing your body favors, releiving stress and frustrations, and possibly falling back for them. Sex can definatly be healthy but if taken care of correctly can be in for a lifetime, not just a few hours.

JimBeam · 11-29-2005, 05:11 AM

Yeah I expected these sorts of mixed answers. Like I said, I did this with my ex, and I still have trouble deciding whether it was a good thing to do. I can only conclude that no harm was done so it couldn't have been a bad thing.
I was a bit weary posting this thread, with the chance of some people judging me badly about my choices... but I like the responses I've had. Thanks.

DrFeelgood · 11-29-2005, 10:13 AM

i've been there once before, it was too akward for me, i couldnt do it, even though i wanted to.

i gotta love the person to do stuff with em, just the way i am

JimBeam · 12-01-2005, 05:46 AM

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Originally Posted by DrFeelgood

i've been there once before, it was too akward for me, i couldnt do it, even though i wanted to.

i gotta love the person to do stuff with em, just the way i am

Considering she broke up with me... I think I was still in love with her which made it very easy to do. It really wasn't until I started going out with different people that I really got over her and learnt to live without her.

Flage25 · 02-11-2006, 07:53 PM

Is it bad when after u stop . . . . . something happens then it starts all over again, but then stops................. yay! I'm so proud I've been two months strong

footballfanatic · 02-12-2006, 11:50 PM

The only danger in having sex after the breakup is "refalling" for each other.

targetpractice · 07-17-2007, 03:16 PM

well what if neither of you stopped loveing the person were made to split up

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11-28-2005, 09:12 AM	#2 (permalink)
AlphaZero In Like Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: jersey Posts: 39	If both people are okay with it then I don't see why it is wrong. I myself wouldn't do it because I wouldn't want to get myself reattached to her when I'm trying to get over her.

11-28-2005, 11:55 PM	#3 (permalink)
lehmur In Like Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 46	This is a really hard subject, because sex means different things to everyone. Some think it is to show love for eachother, while others just do it for fun. I don't think having sex after a relationship is good because it will just cause confusion. I know it would be hard for me to have closure if I was still having sex.

11-29-2005, 01:09 AM	#4 (permalink)
freakypunkdixie In Love Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tennessee Posts: 209	Indeed a hard subject. You can't say whether or not it's a good thing or a bad thing. In the midst of things, you are doing your body favors, releiving stress and frustrations, and possibly falling back for them. Sex can definatly be healthy but if taken care of correctly can be in for a lifetime, not just a few hours.

11-29-2005, 05:11 AM	#5 (permalink)
JimBeam In Like Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Melbourne, AUS Posts: 55	Yeah I expected these sorts of mixed answers. Like I said, I did this with my ex, and I still have trouble deciding whether it was a good thing to do. I can only conclude that no harm was done so it couldn't have been a bad thing. I was a bit weary posting this thread, with the chance of some people judging me badly about my choices... but I like the responses I've had. Thanks.

11-29-2005, 10:13 AM	#6 (permalink)
DrFeelgood In Like Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: San Jose, CA Posts: 38	i've been there once before, it was too akward for me, i couldnt do it, even though i wanted to. i gotta love the person to do stuff with em, just the way i am

02-11-2006, 07:53 PM	#8 (permalink)
Flage25 Virgin Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 1	Is it bad when after u stop . . . . . something happens then it starts all over again, but then stops................. yay! I'm so proud I've been two months strong

02-12-2006, 11:50 PM	#9 (permalink)
footballfanatic Virgin Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 8	The only danger in having sex after the breakup is "refalling" for each other.

07-17-2007, 03:16 PM	#10 (permalink)
targetpractice Virgin Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 2	well what if neither of you stopped loveing the person were made to split up

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