I just now realized it is over

[That'sNotCool]

Well since I was 8 years old I had a good friend who lived across the street from me. We had been best friends ever since we were 8. We went to school everyday together and tried to get in as many of the same classes in high school, we would wait for each other after classes. It was basically like we were dating, typical relationship with no sex or intimacy. She was my friend and I thought that was fine.

I put up with so much and did a lot of things for her. Being there when guys mad her feel bad to actually going to parties and stuff with her just to keep an eye on her. I was "The Protector" so to speak. Things were great throughout high school and just in general. We hung out nearly everyday and didn't get sick of each other, we put up with each other through good and bad.

We nearly shared a birthday so when we were 18 we each went to our tattoo place and got a tattoo just to commemorate the occassion together. The tattoos didnt match or anything like that but it was just something that would be great for us to do.

Things all pretty much went bad after graduation though. We went to a party and basically she treated me like dirt. Acted like I wasn't there and when I tried to talk to her she just said **** like "your not my father dont tell me what to do" This just threw me off since that is what I had done for her for the last 4 years. I was pretty pissed and everyone at the party knew it. We didn't speak for a few days after that and I called her, we talked for awhile about what had happened, she said she was sorry but I guess things never really went back to the way they were.

We talked a few more times over the summer and I actually helped her move in to her dorm. She kept saying like i'll call you to come party whenever I have a party and saying she will call and stuff like that. She didn't call me once.

She dropped out after the first year and there I was to help pick up the pieces. We hung out for pretty much a full week doing the same old stuff we used to. I helped her get settled in her new apartment and same thing as last time. Saying stuff like she would call and she never called.

A month ago I ran into her at my work and she invited me to her place to check it out since I hadn't been there since that first day were I helped her get the stuff set up. I went there for a couple hours and left. Nothing special happened at all and once again she said she would call me to do stuff. I dont really expect a call this time.

It seems that looking back on it all we were was really good neighbors. When she isnt living across the street we really arent friends. The thing that pisses me off is she expects me to call her, she has always been the one to call me while we were neighbors. She now lived like 5 blocks away in a very small town and that isn't close enough for us to even call each other. She knows my number but why doesn't she pick up the phone and call me? I am crazy about this girl and I have done so many things for her, why wont she just pick up the phone or drive 5 blocks to see me or talk to me? Why were we so close for so long and now we dont even talk?

I was reminscing and decided to post this, I really dont know what I expect to get from this either. I am just pretty confused about the whole situation in general though.

[TheLoveDoctor]

Originally Posted by That'sNotCool

The thing that pisses me off is she expects me to call her, she has always been the one to call me while we were neighbors. She now lived like 5 blocks away in a very small town and that isn't close enough for us to even call each other. She knows my number but why doesn't she pick up the phone and call me? I am crazy about this girl and I have done so many things for her, why wont she just pick up the phone or drive 5 blocks to see me or talk to me? Why were we so close for so long and now we dont even talk?

Alright, to be perfectly honest I think you need to be more pro-active with her about this relationship. Granted I'm sure you didn't post the whole story and I'm sure there are some holes missing, but my initial impression is that SHE has tried several times to pick things up with you by calling you over several times, and although she may be a bit busy and still should have kept in contact with you, why don't YOU call her. She expects you to call her because "your the guy." Maybe now that you are older she expects you to sort of "make the first moves." Her invitations could just be her trying to hint you to be more active with her. Pick up the phone. Give her a call, go drive and go see her. Gauge her reaction then, but I think she really wants to hang out with you, but wants YOU to initiate things.

[DarakBangRemnant]

Originally Posted by TheLoveDoctor

Alright, to be perfectly honest I think you need to be more pro-active with her about this relationship. Granted I'm sure you didn't post the whole story and I'm sure there are some holes missing, but my initial impression is that SHE has tried several times to pick things up with you by calling you over several times, and although she may be a bit busy and still should have kept in contact with you, why don't YOU call her. She expects you to call her because "your the guy." Maybe now that you are older she expects you to sort of "make the first moves." Her invitations could just be her trying to hint you to be more active with her. Pick up the phone. Give her a call, go drive and go see her. Gauge her reaction then, but I think she really wants to hang out with you, but wants YOU to initiate things.

I don't think it's about him. The problem stemmed from her side of the relationship. I think she changed. 8 years old and high school is fine but you have to know, people change. A lot in some cases, and some will never be the same again.

I think you should move on. You could call her and see her again, but I don't think that will do any good. If it does anything, it'll harden the wet cement.