Unable to cope with the loss

[NeedItSoBad]

Shortly after the love of my life and a co-member here, 'TrishasMaster' and I joined this group, he passed away from injuries sustained in a motor vehicle accident, while on his way to move in with me.

It has been just over a month since his passing and I can not get past the heartache, guilt and anger I feel at the loss of the greatest love I have ever known. Everyone tells me that it will get easier with time, but each day only seems to get harder to face without his warm smile, loving touches and soothing voice. I miss him so much. It's all I can do just to write this.

How does one cope with such a loss????

[April]

I am so sorry for your loss.

People can try to tell you how to cope but in reality everyone deals with it differently. I lost my father a few years ago and for me it did get easier with time but I definitely can't say I miss him any less. And there are times when it will hit me real hard, like holidays etc. This is all still very recent for you so it's normal for you to be having a hard time. No one can tell you how to grieve or how long to grieve....but just know that time does make it a little easier. *Big hugs*


R.I.P Duane.

[Snubbsie]

What April said.
If you feel you need it, try a group therapy type thing. There is no wrong way to grieve (unless you self-medicate). Lost my mother a few years ago and every member of my family handles it differently.

So sorry for your loss.

[Rusty]

So sorry for your loss... It's only been a month, your wound is still very fresh. I have heard people say that it takes at least three years to cope when a loved one dies. I know a lady who kept going to her husband's grave every day for five years after he died. She is fine now, able to talk about him without tears, but she does not miss him any less. She has just learned to live with this loss.

[wjane]

In some ways things might get easier for me as I see so many others who have also dealt with losses of their dear ones. "Till Death Do Us Apart"- was the oath taken by me and my girlfriend and things changed drastically in between rather unexpectedly too. In the cases I read here people who were at loss were so because their beloved died, but in my case she is very much alive and I am missing her as I used to since the first day she parted ways with me.
It has been a decade my friends but wounds remain fresh, things became complicated further when she called me over and I was lost in memories to hear her voice. Though she is married now and having kids and there was no point in coming in touch with me. What suggestions do you people offer me will I be able to overcome this mental trauma ever?

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