Not His Belief...

[Anonymous]

This is frustrating me like nothing else. I've been with my guy for about 2.5 years and I want to settle down and have a family. He said he is more than willing to give me kids, and to stay together as a family ... just not get married. He said it isn't "his belief" in getting married and that what we have now is fine (we currently live together).

I'm so like, not on page with this. I want to be marrried. I want the vows, I want the ceremony, I want the promises - I want everything a wedding represents. But he doesn't believe in the "institution" and thinks everything is fine and doesn't want to have a marriage!

What can I tell him so that we can get married?!

[Ðanisty]

Find out his reasons why it goes against what he believes. It would be hard to help you without that information.

[tongyun]

I'm not sure there is anything you can tell him so he'll get married. Some people just don't believe in the institution of marriage. If he's that against it why not move along and find someone who shares the same values as you?

[Rusty]

Yes, this is something you both had to discuss at the start of your relationship... I do not know why the topic was never raised, perhaps you were afraid to mentioned it so that you don't come across as eager to marry, but now you know his stand on this. I guess my advice would be, make sure he knows how important wedding and family is to you as well. If he truly loves you, why not do it for you?

[bubble]

In this day and age, there is no reason to be married. I have been married now for eight years, and I now see that there was really no need for it. Having a child with your partner is a bigger vow, promise and bond than marriage can ever bring.

I really do not think there is anything you can say that will make him marry you, and I do not think it will serve the relationship any good if you press the issue too far. Maybe find out the reasoning behind his decision to never marry.