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12-03-2005, 03:55 PM
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| I can't orgasm...
My boyfriend just doesn't do it for me lately. I'm wondering if it is because I just don't find him sexually attractive anymore...I'm just not sure... But everytime we have sex I have to completely fake it and it isn't enjoyable for me. He isn't the type of guy that would want to talk about something like this, so I just don't know what to do... |
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12-05-2005, 12:52 AM
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I don't really know what to say. I don't want to tell you to break up with your boyfriend simply because he doesn't get you going sexually. But at the same time, I don't want to tell you to stay with him because of whatever reason. This is something that no one here can really help you with. It's all on you. | |
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12-07-2005, 04:26 PM
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Have you tried talking to your boyfriend, hon? I mean - if you're faking it, maybe he doesn't even know there is a problem? If you're intimate enough to be having sex, you should be intimate enough to talk about it when it isn't going that well.  I know you said he 'isn't the type of guy who would want to talk about something like this' but you would be surprised what most people will talk about if given the choice between talking and losing the sex.  Not to mention losing someone he cares about!
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12-08-2005, 05:36 PM
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Maybe its just the settling of the relationship. I think alot of people go through cycles where they kind of wind down. Have you been stressed out about anything lately? Have you started or changed medications? Do you have a vibrator? Do you have a clit peircing? All of these things can affect whether or not you can have an orgasm. If you really care about this guy and want to stay with him, there is no reason why things won't change. You just have to talk about it, and most guys love to talk about sex, you just have to say it in a way they want to talk about. i.e. "I love it when you do this." instead of "You don't get me off anymore." Don't fake. that is the best way to ensure you will never come again with this guy. If you aren't coming, let him finish if you want, and then ask him to continue doing something else to get you off. Or have him get you off before penetration so at least you know you aren't frustrated at the end. Don't fake it, be optimistic. It should be fun to experiment to figure out what is going to do it for you. He should be really into that because most men want their partners to be satisfied.
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11-10-2006, 11:15 PM
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I agree with "HighlyCaffeinated's"comment. but i'd like to add this, take the time to explore your body, find out what gets you off. and go from there. once you firgure it out, have him help you out with that. maybe you have some new stress in your life, new job, new friends, new something. stress in your life can lead to bad performance. trying working out at the gym. you'll benefit from 3 things there, (1) you'll get fit, and (2) you'll increase your sex drive. (i'm not questioning you drive at this point.) (3) you'll relieve that stress that's in your life, that you cannot account for. |
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