Girlfriend Issues

[d-man.exe]

Me and this girl have been going out for three weeks now...we're somewhat close already, on the 2nd day we cuddled (I asked her out on a thursday, on friday I went to her house and chilled) and we kissed a weekish later. We talk for hours on end on MSN and she'll always ask me if I can walk her home (she lives at least 5 miles out so I don't mind walking her) but just seems to not want to touch me or be seen with me in public. Dare I EVER hold her hand

We're fine outside of our classes, we hold hands, walk home and all that stuff but during school she's distant, stands away from me, hugs other guy-friends (I've given up caring that she does, she's the really outgoing type and likes to hug people so whatever) and is REALLY distant from me. When passing period nears to a close and I go to say goodbye she'll turn on a heel and walk to her class, only in the last few days will she NOW walk up to me.

It's quite annoying to me because here I am, hanging out with her because I'm going out with her, and she's hugging all these people all the time and I go for a hug, the person you'd think would be important to her, and she pushses me away.

I'll go to try and hug her, she'll push away, I try to kiss her and she'll look away...makes me feel like crap overall. I have a constant dreading feeling that she doesn't like me at all, but then as soon as we're out of school she doesn't mind or anything. It's really confusing me and I'm always feeling crappy.

I talked to her about it and she said "No means no"...which then just even further confuses me because I keep my distance as far as possible, the last thing in the world I want to come off as is a needy boyfriend to her.

It'll be four weeks this coming Thursday and I've really got mixed feelings. I really have feelings for her but she's just so reluctant to do anything it's sending me mixed messages. Is she just not the affectionate type and I'm misreading all of this? Am I just falling into a stereotype relationship?


Help! Please! I've got heartache from all of this and I'm losing sleep...

[d-man.exe]

...anyone?

[DickStivers]

I think the fact that you have tried to talk to her about this and her bizarre response "no means no", is an alarming sign. When two people are happy in a relationship, they can't WAIT to see the other one in between classes. This makes no sense to me. It seems like she is totally embarassed about your relationship, or she has an agenda. Maybe she has a crush on someone else, and doesn't want to appear "taken".

If you really want to stay with this girl, I would try talking to her about it one more time. If she is still clammed up about responding, you might want to save yourself the emotional turmoil your putting yourself through and end it.

If she is affectionate with you when you guys are alone, and hugging people in public aside from you, this is a big problem. It doesn't mean that she's not the "affectionate type", as it doesn't appear she has any apprehensions about having PDA with others.

[April]

Originally Posted by ****Stivers

I think the fact that you have tried to talk to her about this and her bizarre response "no means no", is an alarming sign. When two people are happy in a relationship, they can't WAIT to see the other one in between classes. This makes no sense to me. It seems like she is totally embarassed about your relationship, or she has an agenda. Maybe she has a crush on someone else, and doesn't want to appear "taken".

If you really want to stay with this girl, I would try talking to her about it one more time. If she is still clammed up about responding, you might want to save yourself the emotional turmoil your putting yourself through and end it.

If she is affectionate with you when you guys are alone, and hugging people in public aside from you, this is a big problem. It doesn't mean that she's not the "affectionate type", as it doesn't appear she has any apprehensions about having PDA with others.

I totally agree with what she said. Something is definitely up. I also agree that you should talk to her once more. If you get the same sort of response move on. You can do better than that.

[blulegna87]

Most likely she does have someone that she wants to date. I would say end it and if she does want to date you, she would make the effort to be with you. If she does, then tell her the things that are bothering you either she changes it or doesnt, either way you will be free from her evil actions.

[oh haiii]

Did this girl happen to be named Catherine?

[yuppy]

Sound like a story there. Please tell us more...

Originally Posted by oh haiii

Did this girl happen to be named Catherine?