Should I Stay or Should I go??

[swatgirl]

Hi, im new to the site and i feel i need some advice. Im 19 yrs old and my boyfriend whom i live with is 25, he is also a cop. After dating for 2 weeks he told me he loved me and after 2 months he asked me to move in due to the fact that my stepmother was kinda off her rocker. So i moved in and the first couple months were really rough and they only got worse when we were buying and selling the old house. After moving in to the new house things mellowed out we were back to our old selves again, but....... ofcourse there's a but.... things are starting to get bad. He told me he is feeling like everything that i do irritates him and he's tired of arguing over dumb petty things and he told me that he feels like he is on the verge of breaking up with the only person he's really been in love with(until me he has never had a relationship longer than a month) and he hates feeling like that. I feel like since the day i moved in with him he has taken me for granted, the im sorrys when he was wrong, stopped. The only emotion that comes out of him is anger. The whole let me make love to you, stopped. Now alls he wants is me to be his little porn star(which is ok with me but i would like the love making every once in a while). Sometimes i also feel like i could pack my stuff and roll out the door and he wouldnt even care. So yesterday, i think..(sorry i work midnight shift) we talked and this is when he told me about being on the verge of breaking up with me and when i told him about my feelings. During the entire covo he had his head on my lap and was holding my legs. Anyway we talked and i suggested that i leave for a couple days or a week or so and see how things go.... well......... he didnt like that idea at all he said he was scared i would meet someone else(even though we wouldnt broke up) so anyway.... at that point i had to leave for work and he said we could talk when i came home from work, needless to say im scared, crying and have no clue what to do(even if we decide this thing of me moving out, i cant go back home) i dont know what to do

[TheLoveDoctor]

Making the transition for having a relationship with someone to moving-in with them can be very difficult. This is especially true if it your first time moving in with someone (your first romantic "roommate" in a sense).

While there is all this fighting going on, you need to ask each other if you truly love each other. It seems like he is irritated over the little things that occur when two people get together and you need him to communicate what it is exactly that is making him unhappy, and you need to tell him what makes you upset.

You need to tell him that you are committed to this relationship (which I assume you are) and find out if he is too. If so, there is no need to do something as drastic as moving out, because in many respects that seals the end of the relationship.

It seems like these problems are simple, and as a police officer he may be bringing stress home from work - and you working such weird house might be doing the same. There is definitely a way to work through this, you just need to communicate and ASK what can he be done and TELL him what you want.