Orgasm

[Anonymous]

I have been with my girlfriend for soon 10 months

However not once has she been able to make me orgasm or 'cum'.
We get 'sexual' VERY often. We haven't had sex yet, however whenever she
gives me handjobs or blowjobs she can't make me cum. I do masturbate aswell
which i think is a horrible habbit for someone who is in a relationship.

Could it be because I masturbate? or watch porno whilst i masturbate?
I feel really shamefull for this to happen. Could it be a psychological thing?

Please Help Thanks.

[tidalecko]

How old are you, and do you get nervous in sexual situations?

Also, how much porn do you watch? How many times do you masturbate on average?

[Rancid]

i am 15....

i dont get nervous at all... i masturbate rather often..5-6 times a week.

i watch porn maybe 1 time a week..


(k im not really anonymous now, i don't see the point in hiding myself)

[tidalecko]

I know from personal experience that the more often you masturbate, the harder it becomes to orgasm.

Think of it as if it was a drug, and you're building tolerance to the drug the more you do it. It's certainly addictive, so you want to do it as much as you can, but the more you do it, the harder it is to get off.

There is the possibility that your girlfriend is inexperienced, which could mean that your right hand provides more pleasure than hers. Perhaps she needs to work on her blowjob technique. If this is the case, you should try suggesting things to her. Tell her something like, "I like it when you do this" and "It wouldn't be very pleasurable if a girl did that", and she will probably get it. Hopefully you have been together long enough to the point that communication is open and you can just tell her how you like it and how you don't like it, and what gets you off the most. If that's the case, then by all means communicate!

Also, try to masturbate less. For one week, try to not masturbate at all. Just one week. This will give your system some "recharge time", and then see if she can finish you then.

Or, if your will is strong, try this: don't masturbate until she is able to finish you. Once you know that your girl can get you off, masturbation seems like a waste of time...so from then on, you will probably reduce how much you masturbate naturally.

[Rancid]

Thanks for the generous reply

Yes we are very open in our relationship about anything, and we talk about all these different matters around sex etc. I do not think it is her technique, because I have told her or 'shown' her what to do and how I like things more.

I will try what you suggest, and not masturbate for a week and see how that goes. Because frankly I haven't tried that, because of my poor will power, but I really want her to make me orgasm, not mainly for the 'sake' of it, but she wants to make me orgasm too, and I feel guilty or bad that I can't for her but to myself I can.

She is aware that I masturbate, but I do not think she knows that I do it so frequently. But we have discussed it, but I would like to try and make her feel pleased about herself aswell.

Thank you again

[locu5]

If you are in a relationship where you are having more frequent encounters, masterbating less will eventually increase your pleasure in them. You should also try masterbating for her (and perhaps watch her) so she can see what it is that you really do.

Also, you are young. Relax a bit, everyone was nervous about sex, etc at your age. It's all good.