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12-08-2005, 04:52 PM
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| Do guys really want to know how many partners you have had?
My husband and I have a dont ask don't tell policy when it comes to previous partners. We are clean of STDs and that is all we cared about when we got together. Recently a couple we are friends with started having problems because the guy asked the girl how many sex partners she has had. She thought that he would be cool with it and told him. he went off the deep end and got extremely upset. So then I was like I wonder what would happen if I told my man how many people I have been with? He says he does not want to know. Would you want to know? How many is Too many? Would you be able to stop at the over all number, or would you want to know details too? Would this be a reason you could break up with someone? I'm just curious.
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12-08-2005, 06:14 PM
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Wow  that's a lot of questions  I've talked about it with my girl, and we seem to know everything about eachother. We've just agreed that what's in the past is in the past, and we don't worry about it. We just look forward to our future together. I can see how some people would be upset if they found out that their parter had more home runs than Sammy Sosa, but it doesn't align with hy perspective on things. Unless there is cheating going on, I don't think this is a good reason to break up with someone. You really can't blame someone for their past, there's no point. Just enjoy what you have here and now. |
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12-08-2005, 08:00 PM
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Yeah I agree. I think that how many partners you've had shouldn't matter as long as you've been checked for HIV and STD's. Although I think a girl that hasn't been that used but enough to have some good experience is what a guy wants. I think it differs with different guys I personally don't think it's any of my guys business with what and where and with whom I've been with. If I volunteer that information he has no right to be upset with me, if he judges me by how many guys I've been with then he isn't suited to you anyway. If your looking for the 'right' partner they shouldn't be defined by how many partners they've had and if you have to define them by that then obviously that should be something to reconsider. You do have to be happy with each other and treat each other equally no matter what. Our perceptions and decisions differ with different people just because you don't agree with a persons decisions doesn't mean that your opinion is the norm and they should be viewed any less ... of course there are exceptions such as murder etc. |
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12-08-2005, 08:30 PM
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12-09-2005, 07:12 AM
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For some reason I've always wanted to know the history of my girlfriend's. It has never impacted our relationship at all, but I've just wanted to know because, well, I want to know everything about them. I've told my fiance everything I've done, my complete history and she's told me hers. Every now and then when watching a movie or something she will be reminded of something in her past and begin to tell me, only to stop talking about because she doesn't think it's necessary to talk to me about it... but I always tell her I want to know and she tells me her little stories. Honestly I find them funny and I don't have any negative reaction to it at all, because I know it's all in the past, it cannot be changed and I know we're in it together for the long run now anyway... and I just love learning more and more about her, even the things she may not be so proud of. Quote:
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12-13-2005, 03:31 PM
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I don't know. I don't think anyone really wants to picture their new mate getting it on with someone else, which is why I haven't told my husband the grand total. He wouldn't be shocked though since he has a pretty good idea since we have been friends for a hundred years before we started going out. We basically grew up being friends, and there isn't alot he doesn't know about me. You also tend to tell your friends stuff you would never tell your mate, so he had that advantage too. I thought it was psycho for my friend's husband to flip out like that. She is a grown woman in her late 20's. She had like 7 partners alltogether since she was like 16. Not too bad right? He acted like she was turning tricks in the mc donalds parking lot. It was insane. Anyway. I wonder what would happen if I told my husband I made it with the italian national soccer team. Probably "In your dreams!" I don't think he would be upset.
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12-13-2005, 05:00 PM
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Personally, I dont really care to know how many partners my girlfriend had been with before me. But even if she did tell me, that was the past. Shes faithful to me now, and she has been for over two years. A wise man once told me, live day by day, forget about the future and the past, and life will take you on its path. |
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