Sex addiction and cheating....

imrithereritnow · 06-06-2006, 09:56 PM

I have a girlfriend who im totaly in love with but I cant stop myself from picking up and having sex with random girls. I am 100percent positive that I love this girl and I think she might be a possibilty to get married to (im only 20 so its still just a possibily, still kinda young) but i cant resist having sex with other women, some I dont even know.

This last week was the worst, I had sex with a 30 year old, then i took a 19 yr old fine black chicks virginity, then i copped dome from a 43 year old milf.

Now I agreed to be in a **** buddy relationship with some 20-something yr old i practically met off the street. I cant deny anyone. Ive been cheating since we have been going out although not as bad at first, and for a few months in a row i was faithful.

Im so afraid of being caught and I love this girl more than anything. Any ideas of why im so obsessed and how I could stop? She doesnt deserve an std or a cheating boyfriend. Now im getting paranoid that shes cheating on me...... please help.

That felt really good just to let somebody know whats been going through my mind and has been a total secret. I couldnt risk anyone i know hearing that for fear she would find out.

TheLoveDoctor · 06-06-2006, 10:26 PM

You need to see if you can break things off with the other girls. From what it sounds like "she's the perfect girl," it seems that (sorry for the bluntness) YOU are the one with the problem, and it isn't anything about HER that is making you cheat.

You need to stay faithful, and stop interacting with so many women outside of your relationship? Are you doing this because you can't refuse sex - or because you aren't getting enough sexual satisfaction with your girlfriend? Is it an emotional issue? Does your girlfriend bore you, so you seek other people? Or is it your own lack of commitment, or fear of it? These are some tough things to think about, but you are going to have to answer them.

April · 06-07-2006, 01:30 AM

You need to stop doing this to the poor girl. If it really is an addiction, get help. But if it isn't and you're just going to continue doing what you're doing to this girl then I'm sorry to say, I dont think you give a **** about her or her feelings. Not trying to be harsh but it's my opinion.

imrithereritnow · 06-07-2006, 03:31 PM

maybe its a mix of some things - i have never said no to any girl ever - but i think its a mix of me being afraid of commitment but also the fact that im afraid to get hurt. Every other gf ive ever gone out with has cheated on me, and after the first time, i cheat at least once with all the new gfs, so if it was ever found out she cheated on me, i wouldnt feel embarassed because i would be able to say 'oh well' i cheated on you first..... and it has happend just like that in a few situations but i just have a hard time stopping myself now.....

this girl is ****ing awsome in bed and i really do love her, but i feel single when shes not around, and it makes me feel like im wanted when i go out and bang random ass chicks....

today i started something that i think might help, at least for now, everyday i dont cheat, i am going to go out and buy something for myself, and if i do cheat, im not going to go out that night to have fun with my gf or with any of my other friends..... today i went out and got my favorite dinner on take out from this awsome resturaunt..... and i feel good about myself because i know that today i didnt break her trust....

TheLoveDoctor · 06-07-2006, 04:38 PM

I hope this will be enough to keep you from cheating. But if this girl really is the "one" you need to focus on the consequences if she ever found out, and how you could jeapordize your marriage. Is a few minutes of pleasure worth ruining a happy future?

katiem1988 · 07-10-2006, 03:04 PM

dude if this is the right girl for you then why are u doing this to her? one day shes going to find out and shes straight gonna leave your ass.. no offence but i would too.. thats horrible man! i used to cheat all the time, with tons of people and i didn't care until he found out and left me.. now im with a new guy and i promised i wouldnt do it to him. you just have to resist temptation... keep yourself out of those situations.. walk away man! tell the girls you are taken and you love her very much. what would u do if she was ****in tons of guys behind ur back!? you'd be pissed man! think about it. use ur brain not your ****

Ðanisty · 07-10-2006, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by imrithereritnow

this girl is ****ing awsome in bed and i really do love her, but i feel single when shes not around, and it makes me feel like im wanted when i go out and bang random ass chicks...

Wow, it would be really easy for me to just call you an ass and be done with it, but I think you have some deeper problems here. Maybe some kind of abandonment issues or co-dependency? Being with a girl shouldn't be the only thing that makes you feel valuable. You need to work on your self-worth, I think.

panamalove23 · 07-11-2006, 12:46 PM

You've been cheated on by other girls, so you say that may be the reason as to why you cheat so you dont feel too tied down to the girl about a relationship. It's bull****. If you love this girl, if you think she is That One, then you shouldn't have any doubts about her, and you shouldn't feel that she will leave you. When you aren't with her, know that she is thinking of you, and you should be thinking of her. If she truly is a special person, then you shouldn't risk losing her... because if you do you may not ever have that chance to find someone as special as her, and that person may end up ****ing with your mind, and leaving you.

In other easy words, don't be a dumb ass and keep your **** in your pants.

Kayla Bear · 07-12-2006, 09:02 PM

LoL, I totally agree w/ panamalove23

TrishasMaster · 07-17-2006, 12:18 AM

LMAO................dude if ya have to get off more than she can handle surf the web. Do NOT cheat on your woman

06-06-2006, 09:56 PM	#1 (permalink)
imrithereritnow Virgin Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 28	Sex addiction and cheating.... I have a girlfriend who im totaly in love with but I cant stop myself from picking up and having sex with random girls. I am 100percent positive that I love this girl and I think she might be a possibilty to get married to (im only 20 so its still just a possibily, still kinda young) but i cant resist having sex with other women, some I dont even know. This last week was the worst, I had sex with a 30 year old, then i took a 19 yr old fine black chicks virginity, then i copped dome from a 43 year old milf. Now I agreed to be in a **** buddy relationship with some 20-something yr old i practically met off the street. I cant deny anyone. Ive been cheating since we have been going out although not as bad at first, and for a few months in a row i was faithful. Im so afraid of being caught and I love this girl more than anything. Any ideas of why im so obsessed and how I could stop? She doesnt deserve an std or a cheating boyfriend. Now im getting paranoid that shes cheating on me...... please help. That felt really good just to let somebody know whats been going through my mind and has been a total secret. I couldnt risk anyone i know hearing that for fear she would find out.

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06-06-2006, 10:26 PM	#2 (permalink)
TheLoveDoctor Moderator Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: California Posts: 531	You need to see if you can break things off with the other girls. From what it sounds like "she's the perfect girl," it seems that (sorry for the bluntness) YOU are the one with the problem, and it isn't anything about HER that is making you cheat. You need to stay faithful, and stop interacting with so many women outside of your relationship? Are you doing this because you can't refuse sex - or because you aren't getting enough sexual satisfaction with your girlfriend? Is it an emotional issue? Does your girlfriend bore you, so you seek other people? Or is it your own lack of commitment, or fear of it? These are some tough things to think about, but you are going to have to answer them.

06-07-2006, 01:30 AM	#3 (permalink)
April In Love Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Ottawa Posts: 165	You need to stop doing this to the poor girl. If it really is an addiction, get help. But if it isn't and you're just going to continue doing what you're doing to this girl then I'm sorry to say, I dont think you give a **** about her or her feelings. Not trying to be harsh but it's my opinion.

06-07-2006, 03:31 PM	#4 (permalink)
imrithereritnow Virgin Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 28	maybe its a mix of some things - i have never said no to any girl ever - but i think its a mix of me being afraid of commitment but also the fact that im afraid to get hurt. Every other gf ive ever gone out with has cheated on me, and after the first time, i cheat at least once with all the new gfs, so if it was ever found out she cheated on me, i wouldnt feel embarassed because i would be able to say 'oh well' i cheated on you first..... and it has happend just like that in a few situations but i just have a hard time stopping myself now..... this girl is ****ing awsome in bed and i really do love her, but i feel single when shes not around, and it makes me feel like im wanted when i go out and bang random ass chicks.... today i started something that i think might help, at least for now, everyday i dont cheat, i am going to go out and buy something for myself, and if i do cheat, im not going to go out that night to have fun with my gf or with any of my other friends..... today i went out and got my favorite dinner on take out from this awsome resturaunt..... and i feel good about myself because i know that today i didnt break her trust....

06-07-2006, 04:38 PM	#5 (permalink)
TheLoveDoctor Moderator Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: California Posts: 531	I hope this will be enough to keep you from cheating. But if this girl really is the "one" you need to focus on the consequences if she ever found out, and how you could jeapordize your marriage. Is a few minutes of pleasure worth ruining a happy future?

07-10-2006, 03:04 PM	#6 (permalink)
katiem1988 Virgin Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 3	dude if this is the right girl for you then why are u doing this to her? one day shes going to find out and shes straight gonna leave your ass.. no offence but i would too.. thats horrible man! i used to cheat all the time, with tons of people and i didn't care until he found out and left me.. now im with a new guy and i promised i wouldnt do it to him. you just have to resist temptation... keep yourself out of those situations.. walk away man! tell the girls you are taken and you love her very much. what would u do if she was **in tons of guys behind ur back!? you'd be pissed man! think about it. use ur brain not your **

07-11-2006, 12:46 PM	#8 (permalink)
panamalove23 In Like Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 56	You've been cheated on by other girls, so you say that may be the reason as to why you cheat so you dont feel too tied down to the girl about a relationship. It's bull**. If you love this girl, if you think she is That One, then you shouldn't have any doubts about her, and you shouldn't feel that she will leave you. When you aren't with her, know that she is thinking of you, and you should be thinking of her. If she truly is a special person, then you shouldn't risk losing her... because if you do you may not ever have that chance to find someone as special as her, and that person may end up ing with your mind, and leaving you. In other easy words, don't be a dumb ass and keep your ** in your pants.

07-12-2006, 09:02 PM	#9 (permalink)
Kayla Bear In Love Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 102	LoL, I totally agree w/ panamalove23

07-17-2006, 12:18 AM	#10 (permalink)
TrishasMaster Virgin Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 20	LMAO................dude if ya have to get off more than she can handle surf the web. Do NOT cheat on your woman

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