A Strange Turn-On?

Kayla Bear · 07-13-2007, 03:56 AM

When my boyfriend asks for, or even just hints at the idea of having sex, i get kinda grossed out and i really don't want to have anything to do with it; not because of him, but just the general idea of sex. (bj's are at the top of my 'things i never ever want to have to do' list) and when we do have sex, i'm really dry and it just makes it that much more unenjoyable. However, when he's sleeping and he's soft, I love to try to do whatever I can to make him hard.. hands, mouth, whatever. Even if he doesn't get hard, I get really wet. ..very wet. I don't have any clue why. I told him about this last week and he thinks I'm really frikin' strange for it. Is it really that weird? any ideas as to why that would do it for me?

panamalove23 · 07-17-2007, 10:16 PM

It seems to me that you're the girl who likes to surprise your man, or simply take control? You get turned off when he brings it up, but when it's up to you, you get turned on?

Also, if you don't get wet during sex, you should think about getting Lube. Water-Based Lube.

Froldt · 07-19-2007, 04:40 PM

I have no idea why such a thing might be a turn on. However, lube can be a wonderful thing. Even for someone who does get wet, that extra bit of wetness can be great.

TheLoveDoctor · 07-22-2007, 09:55 PM

I think Froldt's suggestion is a good one. Give it a go and see if it helps any.

trustingdesire07 · 08-22-2007, 01:28 PM

hmm... perhaps a little bondage. Buy some scarves, or fuzzy handcuffs and a blindfold, or use something else for a blindfold.

I do agree with those above who suggested buying lube. It really does help.

I was skeptical about giving bjs to my hubby at first, but after the first couple of times it does become more pleasurable for both of you.

try some flavored lube or flavored condoms.

April · 08-29-2007, 04:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Kayla Bear

I told him about this last week and he thinks I'm really frikin' strange for it. Is it really that weird? any ideas as to why that would do it for me?

Definitely not weird. Everyone has something that turns them on. This just happens to be yours. Have fun with it.

mimixmassacre · 02-17-2008, 02:48 PM

ok heres my thing,, maybe your not as attracted to him as you think,, do u get attracted to other men or horny at tother things? cuz if you do its him not you

Kayla Bear · 02-24-2008, 02:22 PM

no, i'm not really attracted to any men. i can state that they're hot, but i wouldn't say i'm attracted to them. and no, i'm not gay or bi or anything like that. that's not the issue. I think it may have something to do with being on the depo shot for like 2 years and because of it, i have no libido at all? i dont know.

07-13-2007, 03:56 AM	#1 (permalink)
Kayla Bear In Love Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 102	A Strange Turn-On? When my boyfriend asks for, or even just hints at the idea of having sex, i get kinda grossed out and i really don't want to have anything to do with it; not because of him, but just the general idea of sex. (bj's are at the top of my 'things i never ever want to have to do' list) and when we do have sex, i'm really dry and it just makes it that much more unenjoyable. However, when he's sleeping and he's soft, I love to try to do whatever I can to make him hard.. hands, mouth, whatever. Even if he doesn't get hard, I get really wet. ..very wet. I don't have any clue why. I told him about this last week and he thinks I'm really frikin' strange for it. Is it really that weird? any ideas as to why that would do it for me?

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07-17-2007, 10:16 PM	#2 (permalink)
panamalove23 In Like Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 56	It seems to me that you're the girl who likes to surprise your man, or simply take control? You get turned off when he brings it up, but when it's up to you, you get turned on? Also, if you don't get wet during sex, you should think about getting Lube. Water-Based Lube.

07-19-2007, 04:40 PM	#3 (permalink)
Froldt In Love Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 160	I have no idea why such a thing might be a turn on. However, lube can be a wonderful thing. Even for someone who does get wet, that extra bit of wetness can be great.

07-22-2007, 09:55 PM	#4 (permalink)
TheLoveDoctor Moderator Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: California Posts: 531	I think Froldt's suggestion is a good one. Give it a go and see if it helps any.

08-22-2007, 01:28 PM	#5 (permalink)
trustingdesire07 Virgin Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Buffalo, NY Posts: 2	hmm... perhaps a little bondage. Buy some scarves, or fuzzy handcuffs and a blindfold, or use something else for a blindfold. I do agree with those above who suggested buying lube. It really does help. I was skeptical about giving bjs to my hubby at first, but after the first couple of times it does become more pleasurable for both of you. try some flavored lube or flavored condoms.

02-17-2008, 02:48 PM	#7 (permalink)
mimixmassacre Virgin Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 6	ok heres my thing,, maybe your not as attracted to him as you think,, do u get attracted to other men or horny at tother things? cuz if you do its him not you

02-24-2008, 02:22 PM	#8 (permalink)
Kayla Bear In Love Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 102	no, i'm not really attracted to any men. i can state that they're hot, but i wouldn't say i'm attracted to them. and no, i'm not gay or bi or anything like that. that's not the issue. I think it may have something to do with being on the depo shot for like 2 years and because of it, i have no libido at all? i dont know.

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