Me and my long-time friend

mosh

I really just don't know what to do. Me and my bestgirlfriend have been friends for about 4 years. We always talked about pretty much everything, and always turned to eachother for advice. We'd talk on the phone every night for hours, and just have a fun time together. Recently, she got a boyfriend. Now she's had boyfriends before in our 4 years knowing eachother, but this is different. This guy is a douche bag. One day when i was talking to her during school, he came up to me and tried to get in my face and tell me not to talk to her anymore: bad descision. I punched him in the face after he pushed me and tried to take a swing at me, then when he tried to make another lunge at me i kicked him in the stomach. After this was over, he went whining to his girlfriend that I had beaten him up for no reason, and now she won't talk to me. She doesn't even believe me that he was tryin to beat me up first (it just didn't work). I really don't know what to do...

That'sNotCool

Just break it down to her. Tell her that you two have been friends for a while now and she should know you well enough that you just wouldn't do that for no reason at all. There is no reason she should believe her boyfriend of a few weeks/months over you and tell her that she should know that.

DickStivers

QFT. Remind her of all of the ups and downs you guys have shared and urge her to open her eyes about was is going on with her new beau. He sounds like a real jerk, and chances are, if he treated you like this, it is only a matter of time before his true colors come out.

MustangBabe

Oh, I've been there, done that. The best thing to do is just be very forward with her. Tell her how you're feeling and tell her exactly what happened with the scumbag. And if she still doesn't believe you, then just tell her that you'll always be there for her, but she needs to make a decision. Hopefully she knows that no guy is worth loosing your best friend over.
It worked for me. Mandy "saw the light" (as we now put it) and dumped the idiot and our friendship is still intact and stronger than ever. (We've been friends since we were five years old and we're both twenty now and live half a country away.) Mandy says she can pinpoint that exact incident as what made our friendship so strong because she realized that we could talk to each other and work it out and be adults. We look back on the idiot and laugh now, so hopefully you'll be able to do that too.

jigyasa

You have to let her know about the truth. But try and being practical about it too. Chances are she would take her boyfriend's words over yours. So sadly but truly you might have to let her be.

MHJ

Yes, it is always important to be straightforward with your friend. Being vague makes it difficult to truly get to the point of the problem you may be having

sarah

Be straightforward with her and tell her

However, don't expect her to believe you right away

Love is blind and odds are good she will side with him, until she realizes what a jerk he is