Anal? First time?

imrithereritnow · 03-12-2006, 08:18 AM

Hey me and my girl have never done anal before and I asked her if she would try and shes said "yeah". Any advice on it? Obviously I want her to have the best time possible so that she wants to do it again. So far I figure I'll go slow and use KY but I still think she will find that unpleasant (lol im just imagining this on myself hahaha gross) How many have you have done this and what was the reactions of you and your partner?

TheLoveDoctor · 03-12-2006, 12:02 PM

Anal sex is very difficult to perform and also carries a lot of risk. Rectal tissue tears very easily, and the whole experience can be uncomfortable and painful for her depending on your size.

*Always* use a condom when engaging in anal sex has you will need a lot of protection. Remember to use a lot of lubricant, but only ones that are water-based. You'll need to check and see if your KY is oil or water-based.

I would recommend you experiment a bit first. Before moving onto sex, try slowly putting a couple of fingers up there while engaging in sex and see what her feel for it is. Some women absolutely hate it, and someone absolutely love it - there are very few "in-betweens" at least from what I've heard from others.

Make sure she is very relaxed if you do attempt anal sex. If she clenches her anus, it will be tighter and penetration will be more painful. Find a position that works for you (one where her legs are not spread apart). If possibe, let her be "on top" so she can control the depth of penetration.

And to make sure it is enjoyable for her, make sure you stimulate her clitoris as you penetrate her.

tidalecko · 03-12-2006, 06:54 PM

Don't even start with a couple of fingers - start with one, well-lubed finger, and insert it slowly. Keep eye contact with her if you can, and make sure she communicates with you. It may take weeks for her to become comfortable with this, and it's very important that you move slowly. If you hurt her, she will probably never want to do it again, and it's easy to cause pain with anal. Also, when you do it right, she should not be in pain. It is an indication that something is wrong - it could be the angle of penetration, not enough lube, or that she's not ready for whatever you're doing. Make sure you take baby steps.

freakypunkdixie · 03-13-2006, 11:26 AM

There is also this product called Fanny Creme that I know that Suger and Spice sells. It goes on the outside of the hole (most of her nerve endings are there and thats where it hurts alot) and numbs it.

You'll need ungodly amounts of lube because the anus produces no lube for itself as compared to the vagina.

The ONLY position I found comfortable was when I was laying face down with my hinee a little up in the air (just enough for penatration) and my lover having his entire body ontop of me (His face is next to mine so he can see my reactions).

Bri9ette17 · 03-21-2006, 11:35 AM

Is Visine something good to use??

blulegna87 · 03-21-2006, 06:55 PM

I have never heard of visine before as a lube. Check the ingredients and make sure that it is water based.

The thing with anal sex is that BOTH partner must be relaxed. If the penis is too hard (yes this is possible) I would suggest that you cum first to soften it up a bit. after about 30-45mins, it should be able to erect again and not be as hard. In addition to putting lube on the condom, put it around the hole. If you can put a little inside as well, this will also help.

Before engaging in anal, stick your finger in her anus and help her relax that muscle. over time add an additional finger to help her get used to the width of the penis.

Things to remember:
1) ALWAYS use a condom
2) Use LOTS of lube
3) Go as slow as possible
4) Talk to her

tidalecko · 03-22-2006, 10:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bri9ette17

Is Visine something good to use??

I wouldn't use Visine. It might work fine, but it's best to use water-based lubricants, because they're made specifically for providing lubrication. Visine might dry out quickly once it's absorbed, and might also cause further irritation.

TheLoveDoctor · 03-22-2006, 06:07 PM

I'd just like to echo that you should take real care when engaging in anal sex and to communicate a lot if you do go through with it

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imrithereritnow · 03-25-2006, 05:05 AM

why use a condom? does it get gross? we both were checked for stds so i kno that its safe

TheLoveDoctor · 03-25-2006, 12:02 PM

A condom just seems like it will make things easier. I'd just advise you experiment, try both and see what works better.

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03-12-2006, 12:02 PM	#2 (permalink)
TheLoveDoctor Moderator Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: California Posts: 531	Anal sex is very difficult to perform and also carries a lot of risk. Rectal tissue tears very easily, and the whole experience can be uncomfortable and painful for her depending on your size. Always use a condom when engaging in anal sex has you will need a lot of protection. Remember to use a lot of lubricant, but only ones that are water-based. You'll need to check and see if your KY is oil or water-based. I would recommend you experiment a bit first. Before moving onto sex, try slowly putting a couple of fingers up there while engaging in sex and see what her feel for it is. Some women absolutely hate it, and someone absolutely love it - there are very few "in-betweens" at least from what I've heard from others. Make sure she is very relaxed if you do attempt anal sex. If she clenches her anus, it will be tighter and penetration will be more painful. Find a position that works for you (one where her legs are not spread apart). If possibe, let her be "on top" so she can control the depth of penetration. And to make sure it is enjoyable for her, make sure you stimulate her clitoris as you penetrate her.

03-12-2006, 06:54 PM	#3 (permalink)
tidalecko In Love Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: The right place. Posts: 246	Don't even start with a couple of fingers - start with one, well-lubed finger, and insert it slowly. Keep eye contact with her if you can, and make sure she communicates with you. It may take weeks for her to become comfortable with this, and it's very important that you move slowly. If you hurt her, she will probably never want to do it again, and it's easy to cause pain with anal. Also, when you do it right, she should not be in pain. It is an indication that something is wrong - it could be the angle of penetration, not enough lube, or that she's not ready for whatever you're doing. Make sure you take baby steps.

03-13-2006, 11:26 AM	#4 (permalink)
freakypunkdixie In Love Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tennessee Posts: 209	There is also this product called Fanny Creme that I know that Suger and Spice sells. It goes on the outside of the hole (most of her nerve endings are there and thats where it hurts alot) and numbs it. You'll need ungodly amounts of lube because the anus produces no lube for itself as compared to the vagina. The ONLY position I found comfortable was when I was laying face down with my hinee a little up in the air (just enough for penatration) and my lover having his entire body ontop of me (His face is next to mine so he can see my reactions).

03-21-2006, 11:35 AM	#5 (permalink)
Bri9ette17 Virgin Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 1	Is Visine something good to use??

03-21-2006, 06:55 PM	#6 (permalink)
blulegna87 In Like Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 47	I have never heard of visine before as a lube. Check the ingredients and make sure that it is water based. The thing with anal sex is that BOTH partner must be relaxed. If the penis is too hard (yes this is possible) I would suggest that you cum first to soften it up a bit. after about 30-45mins, it should be able to erect again and not be as hard. In addition to putting lube on the condom, put it around the hole. If you can put a little inside as well, this will also help. Before engaging in anal, stick your finger in her anus and help her relax that muscle. over time add an additional finger to help her get used to the width of the penis. Things to remember: 1) ALWAYS use a condom 2) Use LOTS of lube 3) Go as slow as possible 4) Talk to her

03-22-2006, 06:07 PM	#8 (permalink)
TheLoveDoctor Moderator Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: California Posts: 531	I'd just like to echo that you should take real care when engaging in anal sex and to communicate a lot if you do go through with it .

03-25-2006, 05:05 AM	#9 (permalink)
imrithereritnow Virgin Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 28	why use a condom? does it get gross? we both were checked for stds so i kno that its safe

03-25-2006, 12:02 PM	#10 (permalink)
TheLoveDoctor Moderator Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: California Posts: 531	A condom just seems like it will make things easier. I'd just advise you experiment, try both and see what works better.

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