Advice please

santi3hg · 04-09-2006, 07:12 PM

Ok, to make it short cause i had to power outages and both times the document didn't save.

I've made this very strong connection with a friend of mine were we both have liked each other. I went through a hard time and she never talked to me through it. Now she claims to be strongly in affection for me. Yet I don't beleive her, cause she abandoned me, yet she claims this. I still have a strong affection, but now its more her than anything. And I feel a bit imposed by it. I've also met many people recently, and am quite attracted to a few, and have positive feedback as well. This never happens, meeting of people. Freedom to explore I guess, but I can't forgot about her. Any advice?

TheLoveDoctor · 04-10-2006, 07:36 PM

I would still give her a chance. Maybe she didn't "abandon" you, but was more nervous about how she may come off during your own rough patch.

Froldt · 04-11-2006, 07:27 PM

I'd give her a chance. Maybe sit down and talk it all out.

santi3hg · 04-12-2006, 08:41 PM

She's not confrotational at all, and a dreamer thinking it will resolve itself. Plus she told me she was sexually frustrated. I'm not active at all really, but I don't feel my needs in basic relationships has been satisfied. But I'm willing to start a bridge.

K R A Z I E · 05-03-2006, 12:36 PM

you should keep yourself open. if there are other attractions out there, explore them all. dont set yourself on one person. go out have fun, get to know these other people. i'm not sayin to slut around...just look out for your best intrest. make a decision on what you know...not what you think, or want to think.

just my $0.02

BudTugley · 09-05-2006, 02:50 PM

Talk it out with her, but don't limit yourself to her. You'll change with time, as well as your attraction. You might end up liking one of the people you met more than her and you might regret choosing her. Just give it some time to work it out.

jigyasa · 10-01-2008, 11:49 PM

Take it slow with her. Let her re-earn that trust back. And until she does, you should completely be open towards other people. Whether or not she ultimately becomes the closest is what you should leave on time.

sarah · 10-07-2008, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by TheLoveDoctor

I would still give her a chance. Maybe she didn't "abandon" you, but was more nervous about how she may come off during your own rough patch.

Some people do not have the best bedside manners per se, and this may have been the case with her

04-09-2006, 07:12 PM	#1 (permalink)
santi3hg In Like Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Miami, Florida Posts: 34	Advice please Ok, to make it short cause i had to power outages and both times the document didn't save. I've made this very strong connection with a friend of mine were we both have liked each other. I went through a hard time and she never talked to me through it. Now she claims to be strongly in affection for me. Yet I don't beleive her, cause she abandoned me, yet she claims this. I still have a strong affection, but now its more her than anything. And I feel a bit imposed by it. I've also met many people recently, and am quite attracted to a few, and have positive feedback as well. This never happens, meeting of people. Freedom to explore I guess, but I can't forgot about her. Any advice?

10-01-2008, 11:49 PM	#7 (permalink)
jigyasa In Like Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 52	Re: Advice please Take it slow with her. Let her re-earn that trust back. And until she does, you should completely be open towards other people. Whether or not she ultimately becomes the closest is what you should leave on time.

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04-10-2006, 07:36 PM	#2 (permalink)
TheLoveDoctor Moderator Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: California Posts: 531	I would still give her a chance. Maybe she didn't "abandon" you, but was more nervous about how she may come off during your own rough patch.

04-11-2006, 07:27 PM	#3 (permalink)
Froldt In Love Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 160	I'd give her a chance. Maybe sit down and talk it all out.

04-12-2006, 08:41 PM	#4 (permalink)
santi3hg In Like Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Miami, Florida Posts: 34	She's not confrotational at all, and a dreamer thinking it will resolve itself. Plus she told me she was sexually frustrated. I'm not active at all really, but I don't feel my needs in basic relationships has been satisfied. But I'm willing to start a bridge.

05-03-2006, 12:36 PM	#5 (permalink)
K R A Z I E Virgin Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 22	you should keep yourself open. if there are other attractions out there, explore them all. dont set yourself on one person. go out have fun, get to know these other people. i'm not sayin to slut around...just look out for your best intrest. make a decision on what you know...not what you think, or want to think. just my $0.02

09-05-2006, 02:50 PM	#6 (permalink)
BudTugley Virgin Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Portland Posts: 15	Talk it out with her, but don't limit yourself to her. You'll change with time, as well as your attraction. You might end up liking one of the people you met more than her and you might regret choosing her. Just give it some time to work it out.

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