Me a man?...who knows

FC_Bitches

Society has always taught men not to cry. To always stand firm and emotionless...I've fit the role very well for quite awhile, until a little over 5 months ago when I met my current girlfriend. I'm very picky with girls and she is my third girlfriend, the other two lasted 2 weeks or so each if that even counts. In those 5 months, by the second month I had fallen in love with her...the problem is she is the type of girl who doesn't express emotion very well..the beautiful, yet emotionless girl. I don't know how it happened, but I did fall in love. I couldn't see myself without this girl in the future..there was no future without her. Today, after I had spent weeks thinking of ways to change her idea of a career as an enlisted soldier in the army I started my attack on changing her decision. She simply ignored me while watching tv and giving me half assed responses..now after being completely fed up and being so confused on the matter and distracted that it started affecting my work life I waited outside her house. When she came home from work I asked if I could talk to her...within 30 seconds my eyes were filled with tears and my nose was completely clogged..I wasn't wailing or completely crying out, but the point is I was the one who broke down...I was the one who was fighting to simply breath and make out sentences...she was understanding and talked equally with me, but never even hinted a tear and there I was trying my hardest to control myself...tonight was also the night I told her of my love for her. She loves me as well, but I am the on who broke down. I'm sure that I've been through more in my life, had more fights with my parents (nasty divorce and such at a younger age...tore the family apart), etc than she has, yet I still cried...the first time I've cried in over a year. I didn't cry when a family member died...yet tonight I did...It seems she's gotten under my skin..so I say to you all:
Emotions do NOT play a part in the gender role...

April

As they shouldn't. I think it's great if a guy is able to show true emotion and not be a toughie all the time.

FC_Bitches

It's a bit different when the man shows emotion and the girl never does though...

Kayla Bear

yeah, i like to think that the truely stronger man is the one who will cry and show emotions, especially if it's in public.

TheLoveDoctor

I think showing emotions is perfectly acceptable for a man and should be encouraged. However a lot of it depends on timing and the context of a situation. The typical view is that a "man" should be the "support and comfort" of a woman, and should therefore be less effected by powerful emotions; in a word, men "should display an attitude that a woman can find solace in." I don't necessarily agree, but it seems to be the trend in society today that a lot of women themselves re-echo. Take it with a grain of salt.