First time advice?

Froldt · 10-19-2006, 08:31 AM

It's not going to be my first time, but it will be my girlfriend's. I'm wondering if any of you might have some advice.

No idea when this will happen, might be tonight, might be next September, it's up to her. I will be taking it nice and slow, so I already know that.

Is there any other advice that might be helpful to make it better for her? I've had some friends recommend lube, but I plan on her being plenty ready by that time.

Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!

Snubbsie · 10-19-2006, 12:05 PM

Just be nice and VERY patient. Go at her pace...it already sounds like you are.
It may be painful for her so *listen* to her.
(wear a condom)

TheLoveDoctor · 10-19-2006, 07:03 PM

Just be gentle and romantic. Make it special for her, because she'll never forget it.

Ðanisty · 10-20-2006, 07:14 AM

Bring the lube just in case.

April · 10-20-2006, 03:33 PM

They covered it so I'll just say have fun!

Kayla Bear · 10-22-2006, 12:32 PM

My first time happened with very few words exchanged. It wasnt planned or anything, I had gone over there to hang out,.. we started making out,.. it continued til he was on top of me making out and groping.. then he began to pull down my pants, paused and asked, "is this ok?" I said yes so it continued. He was very gentle and very slow. He asked about every 4 mins if I was ok and if it hurt and and if he should stop.
If we had planned it out, talked about it shortly before, or if he asked me questions other than the "yes or no" ones, I would have been too embarassed to do or say anything. While I dont regret losing it to him, I do wish I was a bit older. Still, I rather liked his approach. It isn't for everyone, I know, but maybe it could help.

Froldt · 10-22-2006, 07:44 PM

We've discussed it a couple of times. My plan is for a nice romantic evening (I'll cook dinner, maybe take it out for a picnic, candles.) We'll hit the hammock (where we shared our first kiss), and after a long evening, we can go for it.
It will definately be with her consent, and we'll be sure to have a condom.

It might not work out this way, but I definately plan to make it special for her.

RockerGuy · 11-02-2006, 06:00 PM

I might be wierd, but I believe planning it takes away the special feeling. While you do need to know that she's ready, I believe it has to be an in-the-moment kind of thing. All the build up will cause more anxiety on her part. If you have a specific place like your place or hers, I would keep lube handy.

Also, don't have the intention of finishing or being amazing. Don't try to be a stud, just be very basic and easy.

TheLoveDoctor · 11-04-2006, 02:25 AM

Be nice and gentle. If you already have a romantic, expressive physical relationship, everything should come naturally.

10-19-2006, 08:31 AM	#1 (permalink)
Froldt In Love Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 160	First time advice? It's not going to be my first time, but it will be my girlfriend's. I'm wondering if any of you might have some advice. No idea when this will happen, might be tonight, might be next September, it's up to her. I will be taking it nice and slow, so I already know that. Is there any other advice that might be helpful to make it better for her? I've had some friends recommend lube, but I plan on her being plenty ready by that time. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!

10-22-2006, 12:32 PM	#6 (permalink)
Kayla Bear In Love Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 102	My first time happened with very few words exchanged. It wasnt planned or anything, I had gone over there to hang out,.. we started making out,.. it continued til he was on top of me making out and groping.. then he began to pull down my pants, paused and asked, "is this ok?" I said yes so it continued. He was very gentle and very slow. He asked about every 4 mins if I was ok and if it hurt and and if he should stop. If we had planned it out, talked about it shortly before, or if he asked me questions other than the "yes or no" ones, I would have been too embarassed to do or say anything. While I dont regret losing it to him, I do wish I was a bit older. Still, I rather liked his approach. It isn't for everyone, I know, but maybe it could help. Last edited by Kayla Bear; 10-23-2006 at 05:03 AM.

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10-19-2006, 12:05 PM	#2 (permalink)
Snubbsie Virgin Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 17	Just be nice and VERY patient. Go at her pace...it already sounds like you are. It may be painful for her so listen to her. (wear a condom)

10-19-2006, 07:03 PM	#3 (permalink)
TheLoveDoctor Moderator Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: California Posts: 531	Just be gentle and romantic. Make it special for her, because she'll never forget it.

10-20-2006, 07:14 AM	#4 (permalink)
Ðanisty In Love Join Date: Nov 1999 Location: Savannah, GA Posts: 148	Bring the lube just in case.

10-20-2006, 03:33 PM	#5 (permalink)
April In Love Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Ottawa Posts: 165	They covered it so I'll just say have fun!

10-22-2006, 07:44 PM	#7 (permalink)
Froldt In Love Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 160	We've discussed it a couple of times. My plan is for a nice romantic evening (I'll cook dinner, maybe take it out for a picnic, candles.) We'll hit the hammock (where we shared our first kiss), and after a long evening, we can go for it. It will definately be with her consent, and we'll be sure to have a condom. It might not work out this way, but I definately plan to make it special for her.

11-02-2006, 06:00 PM	#8 (permalink)
RockerGuy In Like Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: New Jersey Posts: 51	I might be wierd, but I believe planning it takes away the special feeling. While you do need to know that she's ready, I believe it has to be an in-the-moment kind of thing. All the build up will cause more anxiety on her part. If you have a specific place like your place or hers, I would keep lube handy. Also, don't have the intention of finishing or being amazing. Don't try to be a stud, just be very basic and easy.

11-04-2006, 02:25 AM	#9 (permalink)
TheLoveDoctor Moderator Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: California Posts: 531	Be nice and gentle. If you already have a romantic, expressive physical relationship, everything should come naturally.

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