issues...

yourowndisaster

so this is kinda embarassing but yeah
im 17 so anyways
i sent my bf this sex kinda survey haha and one of the questions was would you go down on me and he said sure. then later i asked if he really meant it on AIM and he was like yes.. it's just the person who i did that to before "didn't take very good care of themselves down there and i was literally about to throw up but i'm sure youre not like that" and all this stuff.
so the other day i was with my bf on his bed and before i went down on him i decided to ask first to be sure... so i was like ..."um are you afraid to go down on me?" and he was like "yeah... i just... don't. like. it." and then i was like well you didn't hafta lie to me and he was like lie about what?
then i just kinda lied there for 5 minutes and finally he realized i was crying and he was like whats wrong?!? and i was like idk... you just shouldn't have lied to me about thatttt and then idk
i think i freaked him out cause he got all weird and was like "you're right i shouldn't have lied"
and well i wanted to have sex at the time because i was just stressed and stuff... and well before when i wanted to do it he said we should wait since i'm a virgin and all. and this time he was like "i just feel bad... cause you're a virgin. and i wanna make sure that you really care about me before we do that because when i lost it... the person didn't care about me." and he was like "i'm bad at dating people. i never have anything last more than a month." and all this stuffff.
and idk what to do about a lotta stuff.
should i just not give him head anymore if he's not going to reciprocate?
i mean he does other things for me basically everything but that and sex. haha
or should i still give him head just not as often..?
oh yeah and after this whole awkward situation on his bed
he asked me if i wanted to
watch tv.
haha.
the end.

Ðanisty

Whether you choose to give him head or not is at your own discretion. You certainly aren't obligated to and you'd be well within your rights to refuse. Personally, I wouldn't accept it. If he's not willing, why should you? If you really enjoy it though, you may just want to do it anyway.

He shouldn't have lied to you, but I think maybe he thought he could go through with it and then changed his mind. He may not have intended to lie.

How old is he?

yourowndisaster

yeah the only thing i like about it is making him feel good. haha
he's 20.

tongyun

Even partners who love each other can have problems in their sexual relationship. Some thorny issues of frequency, satisfaction, types of sexual activity, and the role of physical intimacy in the rest of the relationship are common.

The passage of time affects sexuality. Unfortunately, most couples don't retain that urgent longing they first felt.

Talking about your sexual relationship not only gets the issue out in the open, but can also be arousing. Try talk about your fantasies, how often you'd like to have sex, what things you might like to try.

For many women, talk leads to intimacy, though that's not always true for men. Passion can also be fueled by "newness."